Feeling Emotionally Drained from a Relationship With an Addict or Alcoholic? EFT Tapping May Help You Feel Calmer, More Grounded, and Clearer About What You Need
Are you a woman in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic?
You’re not alone.
I work with women who feel overwhelmed in emotionally complex relationships — especially when addiction, unreliability, or broken trust are part of the picture.
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When You’re Constantly Managing an Addict or Alcoholic’s Struggles, It’s Easy to Lose Yourself.
You may feel like you’re walking on eggshells, overthinking everything you say or do. Maybe you’ve tried silence, conversations, boundaries, or even leaving — but nothing really feels settled.
You might still care deeply about this person — but caring doesn’t have to mean carrying the emotional burden alone.
EFT coaching offers a way to gently reduce the stress that builds up when you’re stuck in emotional overload, resentment, or fear. It’s not about changing anyone else — it’s about supporting you in feeling more centered and clear.
How EFT Coaching Can Help a Woman in a Relationship with an Addict or Alcoholic
If you’ve decided to stay in your relationship for now or for good that doesn’t mean you have to keep living in emotional overload.
EFT is a gentle coaching approach that involves tapping on acupressure points while focusing on specific emotions or thoughts. This simple method may help reduce stress, improve emotional regulation, and give you space to respond — not react.
Many women find that EFT helps them feel calmer, more in control, and more connected to their own needs again.
What is the next step?
If you’ve found your way here, you’ve probably been through a lot already. You may have tried support groups, books, or doing everything “right” — and still feel stuck.
EFT coaching isn’t a substitute for therapy or recovery programs. But it may offer something different. EFT is a gentle, structured way to reduce stress and emotional exhaustion so you can feel more centered.
What You Might Be Dealing With
- Feeling unsure what mood they’ll be in when they get home
- Covering for missed work, money problems, or broken promises
- Being blamed for things that aren’t your fault
- Wondering if they’re telling the truth
- Questioning your own reactions or judgment
Let’s Talk — Free 20-Minute Consultation
If you’re curious whether EFT coaching might be helpful for you, I invite you to schedule a free 20-minute call. There’s no pressure — just a conversation where you can ask questions and see how it feels.
Disclosure While Lynn Hoyland is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the state of Arizona, she only offers her coaching services on this website as an Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner. Therefore, her coaching services are separate from and not part of her psychotherapy practice and they are not licensed by the state of Arizona. Lynn Hoyland will not advise, diagnose, treat, or manage mental health disorders. Further, you understand that while she is a LMFT, it does not suggest or imply that she is more qualified than any other practitioner providing similar EFT Tapping coaching services. Please refer to the Disclaimer for further information
EFT can help to reduce stress in a codependent relationship with an addict or alcoholic
EFT can be especially helpful for women in relationships with addicts or alcoholics, offering relief from emotional burnout and constant hypervigilance.
Stress is often a constant when you’re in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction. The emotional strain can wear you down, especially if you’re trying to maintain peace, hold the family together, or fix what feels unfixable.
You may feel caught in a cycle—unsure whether to stay or leave. Both options can feel painful. If you’ve chosen to stay, finding ways to manage the emotional toll is not just helpful—it’s essential to your well-being.
Understanding Codependent Patterns
Addiction can significantly change a person’s thinking and behavior. Likewise, codependent patterns may begin to shape how you think, react, and relate. Your focus shifts entirely to the other person’s needs and chaos. This dynamic can lead you to lose touch with your own well-being.
In many cases, addiction creates damage in the closest relationships first. Without support, the cycle can become emotionally depleting and isolating for both people involved.
The Emotional Toll of Loving Someone in Active Addiction
When someone is in active addiction, their behavior often becomes unpredictable, confusing, or even deceptive. Over time, you may feel like you’re living with two different people—the version you remember and the one who’s driven by the addiction. This emotional whiplash can leave you feeling hurt, betrayed, or deeply confused.
As one person once described it: “Addiction can be like a tornado—tearing through relationships, leaving emotional wreckage behind.”
“I can fix him” — The Codependent Trap
When Love Turns Into Fixing
It’s common to believe that if you just love someone enough, you can help them change. But when you’re in a relationship with someone struggling with addiction, that belief can turn into a painful cycle of trying to rescue or fix them. This often happens at the expense of your own wellbeing. This is the heart of codependency: putting someone else’s needs above your own in hopes of saving them.
When Addiction Takes Over, Chaos Often Follows
Addiction actually changes the way the brain works.
As long as someone is in the midst of their addiction and not receiving help, a relationship with an addict or alcoholic can be incredibly chaotic. For instance, an addict or alcoholic will sometimes do anything to keep using including lying, cheating, and stealing. Therefore, addicts may engage in risky or illegal behaviors, which ultimately impacts their partner.
Addiction Alters the Brain
When someone is caught in active addiction and not seeking help, their choices can create a lot of instability and emotional pain. It may feel like nothing is predictable anymore—one day they’re apologetic, the next they’re denying there’s a problem at all.
People in addiction often act out of desperation—doing or saying whatever it takes to keep the behavior going. This might include lying, hiding things, disappearing, or making risky choices that can leave you anxious, hurt, and constantly on alert. These patterns often ripple outward and impact everyone around them—especially their partners.
So Why Choose EFT?
EFT is a simple, hands-on coaching technique that may help reduce emotional stress and restore a sense of calm. By gently tapping on specific acupressure points while focusing on difficult thoughts or feelings, many women find they feel more centered, less reactive, and more grounded in their choices. EFT doesn’t require digging into your past or trying to fix anyone else — it’s about creating space for you to breathe, reset, and reconnect with what matters most to you.
If you are a woman in a codependent relationship with an addict or alcoholic, EFT Tapping Can Reduce Your Stress and Much More!
As a certified EFT coach, I specialize in helping women in relationships with addicts or alcoholics regain clarity and confidence.
If you’re a woman in a codependent relationship with someone struggling with addiction or alcoholism, EFT coaching may offer support. It won’t change your partner, but it may help you manage the stress, emotional burnout, and internal conflict that come with trying to hold everything together. EFT can be a step toward feeling more grounded, less reactive, and more in touch with your own voice — even if the situation around you hasn’t changed.
You don’t have to keep living this way. If you’re a woman in a relationship with an addict or alcoholic, EFT coaching can help you reconnect with your own needs.
In addition to the above benefits, tapping has also been shown to help regulate the nervous system. That is to say, when you reduce your stress, your immune system will thank you!
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If you’re curious whether EFT coaching might be a good fit for you, I invite you to schedule a free 20-minute consultation. This is a no-pressure conversation where you can ask questions, learn more about how I work, and explore whether this approach feels right for you. You can schedule that here by clicking the yellow button below.
Lynn Hoyland EFT Tapping Coach
lynnhaz11@gmail.com
Phoenix, AZ
925-421-6873
Disclosure While Lynn Hoyland is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in the state of Arizona, she only offers her coaching servides on this website as an Accredited Certified EFT Practitioner. Therefore, her coaching services are separate from and not part of her psychotherapy practice and they are not licensed by the state of Arizona. Lynn Hoyland will not advise, diagnose, treat, or manage mental health disorders. Further, you understand that while she is a LMFT, it does not suggest or imply that she is more qualified than any other practitioner providing simiilar EFT Tapping coaching services. Please refer to the Disclaimer for further information